Thoughtlessly Cruel


Week 17
Remind the people to be… peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all mean.  Titus 3:1-2I am starting this week’s devotion with a quote from the book “Spiritual humility-what the ancients called “the queen of the virtues”- invites us to become more thoughtful, more aware, and more sensitive to others.  In our arrogance, we can get so wrapped up in our own world that we can’t see anyone else.” -Gary Thomas, Devotions for a Sacred Marriage

I think we can probably all be guilty of being “thoughtlessly cruel” in our marriage.  Often times it is easy to see what we need or want and not really take into account how it will affect our spouse.

Being humble in our marriage is something we should strive for.  Thinking of others before ourselves and making sure that we are paying attention to other’s needs.  I really liked what Gary had to say so I am going to quote him again.  “We don’t build humility on giant gestures as much as forge it with consistent, thoughtful actions, day after day.”

We have to actively look at others to see their needs.  We have to start looking at others to see them and look at ourselves less.  This is especially true in our marriage.  Are their things you are doing that are thoughtlessly cruel to your spouse?  Are there areas you could work on?  This week try to see those areas and work on them.

There is a great sense of happiness i feel when I know that I am thinking of my spouse before myself.  By nature I want to say “but what about ME????” But God has called me to something bigger and I am seeking His help in focusing on my husbands needs before my own!

I encourage you to read this week’s devotion if you have not already.  If you do not have the book- please email me and we can get you one!