Loving it all

IMG_1897We had been traveling for hours, with 3 kids.  We were tired and so happy to be home.  After the car was unloaded and the kids were tucked in their beds, we plopped down on the couch.  Have you ever been exhausted but not able to sleep?  Maybe we had too much coffee on the drive home.  We turned on the TV and watched a movie to unwind.


I was only half way paying attention.  I was mostly soaking up the comfort of home and snuggling my husband on the couch.  Then I hear this line “When you love someone, you love all of them.”  It really got my attention.  The woman went on to explain that loving someone means you love the good and the bad.  You love them even when they mess up.  Love is forever.


As soon as I heard those words, I started preparing to write about them.  Loving all of someone is tough.  Loving the mistakes, the bad habits, the frustrations, the disappointments- that is hard!  Sticking around when someone hurts you is not always easy.  Relationships are tough because we are all sinners and we all hurt one another.  Most of the time, walking away is the easiest thing to do because loving through pain is hard. 

Jesus commanded us to do it though.  Jesus tells us to Love one another as he loves us!   And Jesus loves all of us, sinners.


“A new command I give you:  Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John 13:34


Marriage is hard.  I don’t think that you will find anyone who will tell you differently if you ask.  What makes it last?  How do people stay married for 50 years?  Does this get easier?  Those are all questions I have asked.  I don’t have an exact answer but what I do know is that no matter how long we are here on earth, we will never be perfect.  We can grow and mature.  We can always strive to be better, but perfection is something we will never achieve.  So, we must learn to love all of our spouse.  Continue to love, even when it hurts.  Love is a choice and one we must make daily.


“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

1 Peter 4:8


I encourage you to love deeply.  Love those around you, even when it is hard.  I know that I mess up and know I fall short often, but I know how good it feels to be loved any way.  I know it has to be hard for people to love me when I mess up.  But if we don’t love one another, even when we sin, how encouraging is that?  Because we all will sin, there is no doubt about that.  I want to be able to show grace and mercy to others, just as God shows it to me.  I am praying for this and striving to love like Jesus, every